For the Record-My Non-Apologetic Stance

Since I own my own business I have felt it necessary to hold back my stance on many things as they could cost me my livlihood. I imagine this is the case with a good portion of the population- fear of retribution for openly stating one’s perspectives. So much for First Amendment Rights. Speak out at your own risk and now added to that, you could even be killed for your views in the current state our nation is in!

For those of you who know me, you know full well that I am a woman of integrity, I have a big heart, truly care about people and would never knowingly harm anyone. And if I did so unintentionally I’d go out of my way to own up, take responsibility and I often “take the high road”.

That said, I can no longer be silent. History has already shown us what happens when we turn a blind eye. So here is where I stand and if you are nowhere near the same page as I am or can’t at least agree to disagree, then we may as well call it a day and move on from one another.

I am non-apologetically an elderly, white female with moderate views. I believe in America and its values, the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, the Universal Declaration for Human Rights, equality, liberty and justice for all, law and order, love, peace, kindness, paying it forward. I’m also on the same page as MLK Jr and other great leaders in that I abhor violence.

I believe in God/a Supreme Being and the Golden Rule, i.e. treating others as one would want to be treated, that one makes the bed one lays in and reaps what one sows. I believe that one’s life is what one chooses to make of it and that no matter the obstacles, if one has the will to overcome, they will. I say this from first-hand experience. I could have easily been a victim and chose not to be.

I believe that there is corruption in many sectors of our society and that it is upon all of us to pursue non-violent means to rectify these. Along with that, I believe that fake news from Media, Mass and Social, is one of the most lethal menaces to humanity. It incites hate and divides people and often points us in the wrong direction and is a major source of violence.

I am pro-life, pro-choice for health care and education and pro-environment as well as pro-term limits for “career politicians”. On the flip side, I am anti-Socialism, anti-Fascism, anti-Marxism, anti-Communism and also anti our current welfare system as it has been destroying the family unit by underhandedly advocating single parenthood for decades.

I think that pretty well covers it. Feel free to reach out to me if you feel the need for clarification.

All the best to you and yours,

Kay Rowe

Stop Anarchists from Being Oblivious to Consequences- “Victims of Riots Lives Matter-too”

It is high time for a change. I’m sick of the hateful “Black Lives Matter” chants of “Death to America”, “Pigs in a Blanket-fry em like bacon”. Here’s a new one- “Victims of Riots Lives Matter-too”. Let’s get justice and peace for the innocent bystanders whose lives have been destroyed by all this hate- without riots!

We appear to be living a world now where peace, love and kindness are lost concepts and in their place are hate and destruction. The days of predicting the consequences of one’s actions, something that a person with a healthy mind would take into consideration before taking action, seem absent.

Nowadays some people can literally get away with murder directly or indirectly through insurrection, incitement and domestic terrorism. The culprits are a very small percentage of the population. Some are BLM Leaders and Supporters, allegedly spurred on by the abuse of power by a small handful of Law Enforcement. Then there’s Antifa, Anarchists, Marxists, convicted felons, mobs, gangsters, drug cartels and the list goes on. But let’s not forget some of our Politicians are culpable too.

The sadest part of it all is that the majority of the people who are suffering from the brutal actions of the hateful are non-violent, innocent bystanders. This is very specifically the case with the victims of rioters who are high-jacking the BLM protests, which some BLM Leaders and Supporters as well as Mayors and Governors of the cities and states concerned, have incited, or at least condoned.

What hypocrisy! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that hate begets more hate. There’s no end in sight with those full of hate being anti-Law and Order, the very thing that is absolutely necessary to stop the violence.

I’m curious. What is the end game? Do these complicit BLM Leaders and Supporters, Mayors and Govenors even care about whether or not justice, equality, peace, love and kindness are achieved or is it just more and more anger, hate and destruction, spread like a cancer across the entire world until there is nothing left for anyone, anywhere, to care about?

It is high time to to make those who are responsible pay for their crimes using legal means, not riots under the guise of “peaceful protests”. I imagine there are a lot of Attorneys out there who will take on cases pro-bono or contingent. They could probably get class action suits going. Let’s bring justice now to this Anarchy and include those who are funding it as accesories to the crimes and make them pay too!

Kay Rowe

To: Pres Trump and RNC, Joe Biden and DNC, BLM Leaders and BLM Supporters, Rioters, Mass Media, Social Media and all others concerned

In all my years I have never feared for my life and the lives of those I hold near and dear as much as I do today. I believe a great many people are also living with that fear. It is said “you make the bed you sleep in”, “you reap what you sow”. Perhaps you don’t believe in past or future lives, but even if not, the generations to come will have to endure the world the way we have left it for them. Personally, I wish to pass knowing that I made a positive impact such that love and peace will reign in this world. What about you? What will you leave behind as your legacy?

“GOVERNMENT OF THE PEOPLE, BY THE PEOPLE, FOR THE PEOPLE”? These words were spoken by President Abraham Lincoln on November 18, 1863, as part of the “Gettysburg Address”. President Lincoln advocated the words of the Declaration of Independence and accentuated the Civil War as not just a fight to preserve the Union, but to bring equality to “all” of its citizens: “… conceived in liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal.”

While our elected officials should be able to be counted upon to insure the rights of the people, seeing that the people put them in office and pay taxes to cover their services, it is nonetheless imperative that all people participate and compel our Politicians to do the job they swore an oath to.

That said, I think we can agree that nothing in this world is guaranteed. Unfortunately that applies to our rights and freedoms. We must take a stand whenever necessary to rectify situations that put us in jeopardy. Thus we have a Constitution, Bill of Rights and even a Universal Declaration for Human Rights to serve as security and a guideline for action.

Why a very small portion of our population would choose the path of hate and destruction is beyond me. It is certainly evident that it does not open the door to negotiation, let alone peaceful resolution.

Perhaps love and kindness is a concept lost on the hateful, violent and destructive? No one would know better than the individual what pain and unhappiness they have endured in life that would drive them to the conclusion that harming others is a worthy endeavor. I can only hope that in time they will heal, the sooner the better for them and all concerned.

Meanwhile, I am asking all of you from the bottom of my heart to end the diviseness and work together to resolve the very serious issues at hand for the greater good of the American people.

For once can speeches and debates simply state accomplishments, party platform and at the same time not cut down the opposing party? Can the Media, Mass and Social, be impartial? Can the “one size fits all” narrative be eliminated? Can we, as individuals not assume but perform our own due diligence before we judge? Surely not everyone in the RNC is corrupt, nor is everyone in the DNC, not all (and perhaps not any) BLM Leaders nor BLM supporters are Marzists, Anarchists, Rioters, nor are all the Police bad, not all White’s are Racist/Supremicists, nor is all the Media fake, and the list goes on.

Unfortunately it is true that in every group known to man there are “bad apples”. However, I truly believe, that when all is said and done, most people are very good at heart and truly care about their fellow man. Thus, for whatever it is worth, I am granting all of you the benefit of the doubt that you will treat others as you would want to be treated and that your intentions are ultimately to bring equality to all citizens of our Nation as well as liberty and justice for all using peaceful means to achieve this.

Thanks for taking the time to read my message.

All the best to you and yours,

Kay Rowe


Succeeding in Business- Relational v.s. Transactional

In this day and age with competition at every turn, in order for one to stand out in the crowd and keep one’s head above water in business, one needs to be different than the rest.

Far too many people focus on the bottom line, how many clients do they have, how many transactions are in then hopper, how much money will they net.  That’s all fine and good and we all must make an income in order to survive.  However, you lose if that is your focal point.  Clients/customers feel that energy, often referred to as “the used car salesman” and they will not only walk away, they will run and hide from you!

What most people want in a client-business relationship is someone with excellent communication skills and in whom they can trust.

So how do you go about being relational instead of transactional and still make a living?  is not an easy task, since it is pretty well ingrained in society to focus on the money.  Here’s a abbreviated version of my story…

When I was a budding Realtor in late 2014 and into 2015, I was scared I had just moved to Omaha and hardly knew anyone.  Fortunately, I am not that shy,  I like people in general and am passionate about helping others.  Good manners were grilled into me at a very young age, including getting paddled and my mouth washed out with soap whenever I stepped out of line.  So, please and thank-yous and other niceties were and integral part of my personality.

I did the Realtor training required to get my license but that was not sufficient to really get me going in the industry.  Alas, my Brokerage brought in a Facilitator/Mentor affiliated with Buffini and Company.   For 12 weeks, 2-3 hours a week on a set day, in our conference room, 30 some odd Realtors from my Brokerage, met and did the training.

With each module, I learned more and more and more about being relational.  By the end of the training, I had several new clients and 3 families in their Ideal Homes.  Each and every one of those clients, posted rave reviews and we are still in touch to this day.  Note:  Over the past few weeks, a Buffini Rep has been in touch with me and I am soon to embark on training as a Facilitator/Mentor for their program so I can do for others what was done for me a few years ago- total game changer!

As the years have gone by, I have added many more tools to my skillset.  One major one since last May (2019) has been SendoutCards.  At first I was only a monthly subscriber averaging 100 beautiful cards created and sent out a month.  But recently I became an affiliate and am encouraging my friends in business to at least subscribe so they too could step up their game and stand out with their clients.

Now my life as a self-employed, owner of my own business, has become very exciting.  Something that I used to stress out and lose sleep over is fun and I am making it so.

 

 

 

Vital- Home Buyer and Seller Education

In all my years in the Real Estate industry, I have rarely found a client who is well-educated on the home purchasing and/or selling process. Even clients who have purchased or sold before, I have found were missing a vital step in the process, education.

I am also a Certified Mediator, specializing in Residential Real Estate dispute resolutions and I have found, one for one, in every Mediation case, the root cause of the dispute was insufficient education. Knowledge is Power, lack of it is the complete opposite.

It is well worth it for anyone purchasing, let alone selling Real Estate to be educated on the process. To that end, there are on-lines courses and in-person workshops available to the public.

I recommend this online course: https://www.frameworkhomeownership.org/get-started/homebuyer-education

As a licensed Realtor in CO and NE, I will be hosting in-person workshops in Greater Omaha and the Denver Metro and South Denver Metro areas regularly. These will feature guest speakers representing each part of the process, Realtor, Mortgage Broker, Mortgage Lender, Title, Home Inspector, Radon Inspector, Home Insurance provider, etc.

I hope you take this vital step and have a smooth journey in your Home purchasing and/or selling process.

Best, Kay Rowe

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten- Excerpts- By Robert Fulghum

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All I Really Need To Know

I Learned In Kindergarten

Poem by Robert Fulghum

(Note: I was struggling to compose an article and lost that battle. So I decided to share this poem instead as it has been an inspiration to me and may become one for you as well!)

 

“Most of what I really need
To know about how to live
And what to do and how to be
I learned in kindergarten.
Wisdom was not at the top
Of the graduate school mountain,
But there in the sandpile at Sunday school.

These are the things I learned:

Share everything.
Play fair.
Don’t hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life –
Learn some and think some
And draw and paint and sing and dance
And play and work everyday some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out into the world,
Watch out for traffic,
Hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder.”

A Great Read for a Great Life

the 4 agreements

I was first introduced to this book 8 years ago by very dear friends of mine to help me recover from a very traumatic time in my life.

Since then I have made a point of sharing this with countless friends, associates and acquaintances, to help them to not merely having a good life, but a great one.

From my position as a Mediator, I highly recommend this book as a key part of the process in resolving disputes. It is so powerful, it can make Mediation sessions unnecessary!

The following are excerpts…

“The First Agreement – Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth, of what is good, and what you want. Choose your words carefully in what you say to others, as well as what you say internally to yourself.

The Second Agreement – Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering and worrying. You can simply say, “next”.

The Third Agreement – Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. You have to learn to ask for what you want with conviction and confidence. Others cannot read your mind. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

The Fourth Agreement – Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. It will be different from day to day. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

“As you build the habit of the four new agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.”

Best, Kay Rowe